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Feeling Lonely At Home? Here’s What Helped Me
We all feel lonely from time to time. But when that loneliness hits you within the walls of your own home, it can feel not very easy. Your home should be your sanctuary, a place where you feel safe and comfortable. Yet, sometimes, life has a way of creeping in, making even the most familiar spaces feel empty and isolating.
I’ve been there. There were periods in my life where being alone in my house sparked intense sadness. If you’re going through something similar, please know that you’re not alone in your feelings, and many things can help. Here’s what has worked for me…
Identifying Your Brand of Loneliness
Loneliness isn’t a one-size-fits-all emotion. Before we tackle solutions, it helps to pinpoint the kind of loneliness you’re dealing with:
- Boredom: Do you feel a bit “blah” with nothing stimulating going on? Is there a sense of your environment being too quiet or still?
- Lack of connection: Do you crave meaningful interaction with others, the feeling of being understood, or having someone with whom you can share your life?
- Feeling out of place: Does your home itself make you feel disconnected or like you don’t quite belong?
Understanding the root of your loneliness will guide you to the solutions that will be most effective.
Practical Tips to Combat Loneliness at Home
Let’s explore some helpful actions you can take:
1. Change the Atmosphere
- Bring in the outside world: Open windows to let in sounds and fresh air. Even in a hectic city, the hum of life from outside can sometimes be comforting compared to complete silence.
- Light and energy: Turn on some lights! Our brains associate darkness with sleep and inactivity, which can heighten loneliness. Consider adding warmth with lamps or candles.
- Music or media that uplifts: I always have playlists ready for different moods. Gentle, positive music works for me, but podcasts or a funny TV show can also be great if you’re craving a bit of human interaction.
2. Get Moving
- Put on a ‘dance party’ playlist: Even a few minutes of silly dancing can shift your mood. Getting your body moving releases feel-good chemicals. This is one of my quickest bad-mood fixes.
- Short stretches or yoga: Physical activity doesn’t have to be intense. Focusing on how your body feels can pull you back into the present moment and out of a lonely headspace.
- Take a walk: Getting outdoors, even for a short walk around the block, changes your perspective and gets you breathing fresh air.
3. Create a Distraction (The Healthy Kind!)
- Engaging hobbies: Lose yourself in something you enjoy—a creative project, reading, or gaming. This works best if your hobby is immersive and prevents overthinking.
- New things: Trying a new recipe, puzzle, or craft can introduce novelty to break the monotony. It’s a small way to create a sense of accomplishment.
- Household chores with a twist: This sounds odd, but if I’m feeling deficient, putting on upbeat music and tidying even one area of my house gives me back a sense of control.
4. Reaching Out
- Low-pressure contact: Text a friend, send a funny meme, or join a casual online chat group related to an interest. Sometimes, small interactions can tide you over until you feel ready for more.
- Phone a loved one: Choose someone you know will listen with compassion, even if it’s just to vent your feelings. Hearing a familiar voice can make a world of difference.
- In-person plans (even small errands): Plan something to look forward to that gets you out of the house. Meeting a friend for coffee, browsing the library, or even a quick grocery run can help reset your mindset.
Remember:
If loneliness feels overwhelming and persistent, professional help may be the best path. A therapist can provide personalized support and tools to manage loneliness and address underlying concerns.
Important Notes:
- Progress, Not Perfection: Be kind to yourself! Some days are easier than others. Focus on small steps and progress over time.
- Temporary Feelings vs. Chronic Concerns: While loneliness is normal, if it significantly impacts your daily life for an extended period, seeking professional help is essential.
